Wednesday, October 26, 2016

Choose Your Hard

I read so much.
I read about all the different perspectives about poly relationships.

  • Mono/poly
  • Poly/poly
  • Poly/mono
  • How to try harder to make it work
  • How poly is an orientation similar to the LGBT community.

Oh, that's the one. That's the one that get my fur up.
Really!?! An orientation?
I call BS.
It doesn't feel like it to me.
It feels the same as saying that alcoholism is a disease.
If you have a disease, you take medication.
Alcoholism is a choice.
Just like poly.

I'm sure someone will get pissed at me for saying it but it's how I feel about it.

I can try harder.
I can read more. And more.
I can try to understand how he can love me and still want to be with other women.
I can try to understand how he can love me while I'm sobbing at his choice.
I can be happy that he is happy while I'm miserable.
I can take medication to make me numb and not care that my husband and Master dates and fucks other women.
I can smile and defend his choice to our daughter (teach her to be tolerant).
I can pretend that I don't care that he comes home smelling like some other woman.
I can get up each morning and get through my day (and it feels like sleepwalking).
But I'm dying inside.
A soul-crushing death.

But of course, the polys would say I'm not trying hard enough.
So I guess I'll try harder.



No comments:

Post a Comment